Review | Cracked Open by Megan O’Keeffe

Thank you so so much for this indepth and honest review of my book, India! Make sure you check out her blog for more reviews!

What India Read

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Wow. You know when you read something that just speaks to your soul; when someone puts on the page the exact thoughts and feelings you’ve had yourself and makes you feel like you’re not alone in the mistakes you’ve made and hard times you’ve experienced? Well this is one of those. If you’ve ever been through heartbreak, doubted yourself or a relationship, struggled to find yourself after what seems like irreparable damage – you need to read this. When Megan at Debatable Dateable first contacted me to offer me the chance of reviewing Cracked Open, I was hesitant as I’d never read a book of poetry before and wasn’t sure I would do it justice. How glad am I I chose to take the plunge and give it a go though! This is a book I know I will return to again and again throughout my journey to find…

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No Quick Fix

Sometimes I feel so weak and small

Like I’m hard to deal with and the baggage I carry is too much to haul.

My insecurities create issues

plummeting through the open sky

and all i ever do is cry.

Is your love big enough to carry me when I’m like this

I’m no quick fix, can’t just wish it all away with a single kiss

I need you more than you might know

So if you love me now, please don’t ever let me go

March Advice Column

Dear Dateable,

What makes for good first date conversation aside from the usual work/school/family prattle?

DD:You want to keep a first date light and although talking about tv show and movies may seem silly you can learn a lot about a person’s immaturity level and sense of humor by what they put on their screens. You can also find common ground by talking about shows, actors, and current events in entertainment.

Family is usually a common topic as mentioned in the question, but friends are also important to talk about. You want to know the type of people your date surrounds themselves with. You can also learn the role they play in a friend group such as jokester, planner, or the one everyone goes to for advice; its good to see how other people view and value your date and you might appreciate them more by learning so.

When you start talking about friends you also learn what your date does with their free time. Do they go to bars every weekend, trips to a nearby city or concert, or a laidback game night at a friend’s house? This helps you figure out if you like to do the same things and also gives you ideas for future dates if you do.

A common topic for early dates is talking about travels, they’re exciting and unique from day to day life. There seems to be a trend for millenials to be travel bugs so daters can usually find common ground there.

 

Topics to stay away from:

Past Relationships. Don’t be the idiot who talks about his ex and all the things he hated about her or the rude girl who talks about all the other dates she had this month. You both know you’ve dated other people but they aren’t here so stop bringing them up!

Dating Pet Peeves. If you start ranting about things you hate about dating profiles you’re going to seem picky and negative. You can also potentially insult your date. Sure, you won’t want to date someone who annoys you but you should find out the reasoning of why something might be on their profile before ruling them out.

Dark Past and Politics. It would of course be important for your significant other to learn about past experiences that have shaped you even if they aren’t happy memories but the first date is not the time to go into details. Controversial topics like politics and religion are also conversations that should be saved for a later date once you already feel comfortable with someone. Remember, light and fun is the name of the game in the beginning! 

 

Winning the War

I never meant to hurt you

by the things i can’t undo

But You can’t keep punishing me

for the things I did before i met you

It breaks my heart to know

I’ve been breaking yours like glass

I don’t care about those in my past

I’ll forget it all if that’s what makes you happy

There is no battle to fight love, victory is yours

Because you’re the only one for me

Just wait till Im down on one knee

I loved you when i first met you

and i love you more still

Let me settle your mind,

there is no more blood to spill

Big Announcement!

I’m SUPERRRRRR excited to be telling you all that I’m working on my

FIRST PUBLISHED POETRY COLLECTION!!!

It’s something I’ve been contemplating for many months and finally in January I decided I was going to actually go for it this time! I love poetry but I never expected I’d be on this path so you’re all surprised as I am. I’m nervous about it all but I know I just have to  take the jump and face the unknown.

The book will be a 5 chapter journey of love and heartbreak. I’ll be incorporating 20 never before seen poems as well as new illustrations throughout the book!! I expect the book to be just over 100 pages and I am beyond excited for you to see it all! I’ll be self publishing and you can definitely expect some articles on my experience there.

I’m so happy to be sharing this passion project with all of you and will be updating you all along the way! Expect to get your hands on a copy THIS SUMMER!!! I’ll have more information and links as that time approaches.

 

 

OBSESSED

I’m obsessed with you

even though i shouldn’t be

I want to know everything thing

you’ve ever said and did

I want to be you singing along with him like you’re the only two at that concert

Feeling him move as the jazz music rises later that night

Tell me, are you jealous of me too?

The sole commitment to me and our future

The i love yous whispered in my ear

Do you wish to be me

like i wish to be you?

Heartbreaker

I try to think of things i have that you don’t

but you have ocean strolls and trips upstate.

You’ve met the family and had baseball dates.

There’s not much I’ve done that you haven’t.

You two like the same shows and music, i guess that’s why you stayed so long

So tell me where did it go wrong?

Do you know why I’m here instead of you?

Why does he love me so easily when he could never do the same for you?

I hope it breaks your heart as much as you’ve broken mine

Love on a Budget

I think people often mistake expensive dates for romance. You don’t have to a fancy restaurant every weekend, in fact idea number one is

Cook In instead of dining out. Yes usually grocery shopping is more expensive than just one evening dining out but the food you get can be used for multiple meals so at the end of the day you’re definitely saving money. Cooking together is a great bonding experience too, you learn how particular your partner is about materials, measurements, and sanitation as well as learning what frustrates or stresses them out. Creating a meal together allows you to feel like a united team accomplishing a goal together and the shared memory is a great building block in a relationship.

It’s much easier to find free things to do over the summer such as hiking, parks, and finding some water to splash around in. However low key or intense you want your adventure to be, you can find a good fit! Back in high school when everyone was just learning how to drive, I loved late night adventures just driving around, singing along to the radio, and feeling the wind on your skin. You can make amazing memories out of nothing as long as you’re with people you love and the good vibes flow.

Look into events going on in your neighborhood since the tickets are usually cheap or free! There might be a cover band at a brewery, the local theater putting on a play, or a food expo at the museum across town.You can have fun with your friends too by inviting them over for game night or splitting the cost of a weekend getaway trip.

You don’t have to always miss out on dining out or an expensive experience, you can look for deals on Groupon and other coupon sites to make it more affordable. Restaurant week is the perfect time to dine at the fancy places on the water that you would normally never go to (or be able to afford).