You’re What I Need

If you are tired

Let me lay you down

My hands will murmur soft lullabies

into your hair.

If my feet grow weak

You can carry me.

If the wind and the rain

make you shiver

I’ll shelter you from any storm.

They see me alone and hungry

But only you satisfy my every need

And I’ll be there for you

as you are there for me.

Paying in kisses and gentle words

Take from me as often as you give.

-Aug 2017



John Hughes isn’t Here

Dating Woes and Ego Blows

We’re well into Ghost Month! Writers from different corners of the world are sharing their own experiences, and you can, too. Want to see your own work featured on this blog? Submit here.

Today we’re changing things up a little, but don’t worry, the submitters and I still have plenty of cringe-worthy tales in store for you. While you wait for the next of those to cycle through the editorial process, I’ve got something a little different for you.

In the past, I’ve only ever shared personal experiences on this blog. Those are great, but they’re not the only way to get a point across. So today, instead of posting some sordid dating story, I’m sharing something a little more general.

During my twenty-one years on this Earth, I’ve gained a considerable amount of wisdom by making a considerable amount of mistakes. I learned the hard way that…

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Third Time’s the Charm

Dating Woes and Ego Blows

Still enjoying Ghost Month? I hope so, because we’re just getting started…

Women from all walks of life are sharing their stories, and that is absolutely fantastic. Thank you. Keep those submissions coming.

A few guest posts are still in the editing process, so while you wait for those I’ll regale you with the third and final installment of my Pathetic Bumble Saga™.

If you haven’t had the chance to read Parts I and II, here’s a brief recap:

Part I

  • I was nervous about a surgery so I downloaded Bumble to distract myself.
  • I matched and talked with a sweet guy.
  • We made plans to get drinks.
  • He cancelled on me and never spoke to me again.
  • I spent the rest of the week frustratedly icing my face.

Part II

  • I deleted and promptly redownloaded Bumble.
  • I matched with one of the most handsome men I have ever…

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From the Other Side of the Grave

It’s Day Two of Project LoveFest!! And there are tons of awesome stories on Dating Woes and Ego Blows, come check them out with me!

Dating Woes and Ego Blows

Happy Ghost Month!

Today the award-winning poet and blogger behind Debatably Datable offers a different perspective on the hazards of ghosting:

There are plenty of stories I could tell about being ghosted for Ghost Month, but I’m going to tell you the story of when I was Casper. I have only ever ghosted before the first meeting, when all other hints of disinterest have been ignored. If we have gone on one date, then I will give you the courtesy of telling you that I am not interested and perhaps a polite reason why we won’t work so you aren’t left to wonder what went wrong nor lose faith in dating. I value honesty and have experienced the pains of being ghosted, but there are certain situations when saying “No” falls on deaf ears.

One of the main reasons I have used ghosting as a tactic is because…

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Is Online Dating Embarrassing?

The date had gone well and he was walking me to my car when instead of asking about our second date he says “we gotta start thinking about what we’re going to tell people about how we met”. Honestly, I was a little taken back. Should I be offended? Is he embarrassed of me? about how we met?

Of course, I couldn’t really be offended because I had similar thoughts just last week. Dating apps are where all the people who have been rejected in their real life congregate. Honestly though, that’s not exactly true. If you work really long hours or in an industry predominately populated by the gender you’re not interested in then you’re just not meeting enough people in the outside world that you could even consider dating. When I first joined online dating, I was in college surrounded mainly by college guys who were only interested in hooking up and partying. Since neither of those interests me, I decided to search for people who actually matched my interests.

Perhaps 5 years ago, when dating apps were much less mainstream, the few people meeting online would be embarrassed about admitting how they met. Now though, 49,650,000 people have tried online dating out of the 54,350,000 singles in the US. For those that haven’t given it a try, they probably still know a relative, friend, or coworker who is on a dating app. So if you’re talking to someone under 75 years old then you most likely don’t have to worry about anyone asking which fishing dock is named Plenty of Fish.

But maybe the issue isn’t IF people know about dating apps, it’s WHAT they know about them. Are dating apps seen in a negative light? Do people look down at those on such sites? But with one-third of marriages starting online, it now seems like an appropriate possibility with reasonable success for relationships. Sure, Tinder will probably always be seen as the hook up app or just a mobile game everyone plays now to pass the time. But even then, I still know a couple that originally met on Tinder now planning their wedding for next year.

Or maybe, it’s time we care less about what people think of us and our dating lives. If you’re dating a guy who treats you well and makes you happy, who cares how you met him! Your close friends and family will forget all about his dating profile once they begin to see him together with you more. And for everyone else’s opinions who don’t really matter, you’ll be too busy holding hands and making future plans to ever worry about such opinions.


My Biggest Pet Peeve

As a modern woman also planning a non-traditional future this pet peeve drives me mad too! Emily explains it well, take a look!

Tea Addicts Anonymous

Throughout my 19 trips around the sun, the question of pet peeves has come up in countless icebreakers and get-to-know-you games.  Up until recently, I have not been able to name my biggest one.  Of course little things bothered me, such as people leaving my door open after leaving my room or two different songs playing at once, but it was not until I had a boyfriend that something really earned the title of My Biggest Pet Peeve.

No, no.  It is not something that my boyfriend does; it is actually quite the opposite.

As a college student/young adult, every single “full-fledged” adult wants to know what is next for my future.  What boring professional career am I going to go into?  I am smart.  Will I being going to medical school or law school? Surely I will be going into business since that’s a promising field.

My response is…

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Kicking Off Our Relationship With Fighting Homeless Men

Tea Addicts Anonymous

My boyfriend is an awkward guy.  We sat next to each other in at least 8 classes over the course of 2 years before he would say more than a word to me when I tried to start conversations with him.  By 8 classes, I do not mean 8 occasions.  I mean 8 multiplied by 180 days of school, give or take a few days.

I am a talkative girl and he claims that he thought I was weird or intimidating or something.  It wasn’t until we had made some mutual friends and had done some school projects together until he actually started to talk to me.  One of his good friends constantly pushed him to ask me out but he had just gotten out of a relationship and had no interest in talking to me and why in the world would I want to go out with this guy…

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