So I’ve mentioned Stubborn before and I can definitely agree to telling any girl that if a guy doesn’t put in the effort to take you on dates then he’s not into you and you gotta forget him. People rarely take their own advice though.
I’m comfortable where I am with Stubborn.
You know in kindergarten when you’re learning about personal space and you stretch your arms out on either side and you spin in a circle and if you knocked into anyone then you were standing too close to them? Stubborn has intimacy issues just like me. It’s just that he gets uncomfortable as soon as you’re at his fingertips while my intimacy issues don’t start till you inch closer to my elbows. So we run into Stubborn’s intimacy issues first and mine never get analyzed, criticized, or called into question. No one’s busting my balls saying Stubborn’s a good guy if you only gave him a chance.
I believe there is a high chance that if Stubborn suddenly got on board and starting taking me out and wanting to hang out often that my intimacy alarm bells would be going off and I would RUN. So I get the best of both worlds, I get to sit on my high horse telling Stubborn he should date me with everyone on my side thinking it’s his fault things aren’t progressing; And I also get to stay right on that comfort zone sofa where I don’t have to become vulnerable to heartbreak and abandonment.
So for now, I’m pacing myself. I have always ran away as fast as that Hare in and out of relationships. But maybe slow and steady is the key to winning this time.
Debatably Dateable 
Slow and steady is indeed the ingredients of a successful relationship. It takes time to build one. You and Stubborn will get there.
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You know I think by the end of the article I was thinking of going slow and steady with myself and not Stubborn. We shall see!
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Slow and steady may be the right approach, but be careful with this guy! He doesn’t seem ready or willing to take care of your heart, so you have to be the one to make sure you don’t end up getting hurt by this situation!
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I absolutely agree! I have some articles coming out next week that will dive into your concerns more! Thank you for taking the time to comment and look out for me! lol so sweet
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I’ll use myself as a yardstick here…take your time! As much as you need. You’ll only shoot yourself in the foot if not then waste years of your life!
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haha I can use to as a measuring tool, sweet!
Yeah I prefer to not have my time wasted nor waste the time of others. Definitely more updates to come soon!
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I look forward to it. Always enjoy reading your material 🙂
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Thanks Paul! I really appreciate that and all the comments you take the time to write.
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It’s really no trouble. You take me back to the days when I had the thrill of dating and contemplating the potential girlfriend’s I met. I envy you being in that position in many way despite the obvious quandraries you find yourself in
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Haha I definitely understand what you mean, back when it was young, easy, and hopeful. And the bad times just make us appreciate the good times when they finally come.
I don’t have a Facebook page but I appreciate the sentiment!
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No worries 🙂 It was rarely easy, but it was good fun. I have no regrets at all
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Thank you for liking my Facebook page 🙂 Do you have one? If so then I’ll definitely like yours if you have a link
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Yep – it’s a bit like the hare and the tortoise story… the tortoise crossed the winning line first!… Feel the Fear and do it anyway… – that’s a good book by the way!
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Yeah, rushing any type of relationship rarely works out in the long run.
Feel the Fear and do it anyway, that’s a good lesson! and a difficult one to always live by
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You’re so right.. it’s never easy but in the end it can reap rewards! … xx
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Absolutely! I’m hopeful! Thanks for commenting 🙂
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You’re very welcome! x
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