Should You Give Your Ex A Second Chance?

AKA, Is it a really dumb idea to get back with an ex?

Did you guys give it a fair shot the first time? Or was it more of a relationship that never reached its potential? If you were legit dating for 4-6 months, I’d say that was a solid try and things weren’t meant to be. Your ex is someone of your past for a reason, if it didn’t work out then, it probably won’t work out now.

Did you just break up last month? The feelings of doubt and loneliness are normal, make a date night with your girlfriends and keep on healing. No matter what, its important to let time do its thing and take a solid break.

It might be important to consider why things ended the first time. Did one of you move away, was he just an asshole and you finally got sick of his shit, or maybe you weren’t ready for things to get so serious and bailed.

Unfortunately, things usually aren’t so black and white. There’s usually a few reasons why things didn’t work out, some making you want to try again and others whispering that you’d be a fool to think he changed.

But if you were unhappy in that relationship, don’t let loneliness and a few bad first dates wear you down. Don’t go back and settle because the first couple of months haven’t been easy. Love doesn’t just get handed to you, you gotta fight for it.

Honestly, people rarely change. They can change, they are capable of it. But the majority stay the same. But I think this lesson is meant to be learned the hard way. The heart is emotional and irrational, no logic nor list of his bad habits will save it.

Heck, maybe you should just take him back for one night, flush him out of your system, and then leave his sorry ass in the morning 😛

If he’s matured, if you’re both looking for the same thing, and are on the same page, then maybe the timing will finally be right for you two.

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2 comments

  1. I’ve learned by my mistakes that we jump to easily into relationships drawn by what we see and feel on the surface. What we need to establish early on is whether we have the same values, beliefs, communication styles, special preferences etc. We can say “opposites attract” or that differences should be cherished, but we need to understand within ourselves what level of difference we can live with long term both with the mate/potential mate and the people around them (their tribe/culture). Taking someone back entails some deep soul searching.

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