Author: debatablydateable

Weak

I never saw you coming

But boy I sure did have fun loving you

Baby you were my best days

Then again you were also my worst

 

I’m thinking about you and how you

Probably aren’t thinking of me

Love why’d you have to turn your back on me

but if anyone asks I’m doing fine without you,

haven’t thought about you in weeks

Cause though I’ve fallen I’ll never look weak

 

-July 2013

Our First Night Out

Baby your just one move away from making me love you

I don’t know what it is but I just love what you do

And youre looking so good from across the room

If you come closer I’ll play wife and you can play groom

There’s gotta be more to us than just tonight

theres more to life than just black and white

so color me with all your bright lights

 

-Nov 2013

If He Acts like He’s Not into You

…then he’s honestly just not into you.

I know every girl wants to believe they can change a man or that they will defy all odds because their love is so strong but that’s a one in a million shot.

If a guy can’t or doesn’t want to make the time to see you, then he just doesn’t actually care enough to make that effort. Sure maybe he’s scared, going through a hard time, or entering a new point in his life that makes him super busy but all that means is that he’s unavailable.

Then there’s the guy that can never take things to the next level. Maybe he says he’s fine being exclusive but then he won’t put a label on it or introduce you as his girlfriend, or at all. This can happen anywhere down the line, together for 3 months or 9 years, you never know where your guy’s invisible intimacy line is. You’ve been together for so long, why can’t he pop the question?

It’s hard to tell what’s worse though, the guy who can’t say those important words or the one who keeps you strung along by promising a non existent future together. I know we’ll be together one day and that’s why you should forgive me for not putting you first now. For me going out with the boys and ignoring you. For me talking to those girls while I’m still young and dumb.

You begin to put up with a lot of crap because you think it will eventually pay off. All you want is to be loved and after you’re with someone for so long you worry you may never find someone willing to stick with you through all the tough times. You’re scared to start over, afraid this is the best it’s going to get, so you settle.

You settle for the guy who’s just not that into you and he settles for you too. He doesn’t see you because he’s wondering if he’ll see someone else. He talks to other girls because he’s unsure if you’re the best he’s going to do. He doesn’t commit to you because he’s worried as soon as he does that the real girl of his dreams will come walking through the door.

That’s why you should be the one walking out that door so that you both don’t settle. Let’s be honest, maybe you’re just not that into him.

 

((This article also works when changing pronouns around, feel free to read it how you identify))

 

It’s All Wrong

I have to figure out a way to turn things around

But I just can’t find my feet on solid ground

Can you look me in the eye and tell me something true?

Tell me anything to turn my grey skies blue

 

Turned left when I should have gone right

But I’m on my feet again; I’m still in this fight

I colored outside the lines, missed the warning signs

I said the wrong thing and now the heartache stings

I ran out of ways to make you stay

But tell me you love me anyway

 

-Nov 2011

PC

Summer’s Fool

I drove around town to try and clear my mind

but memories of you and me are the only things I find

now August ends and here comes school

Do you remember me now?

I guess I was just summer’s fool

seasons weren’t the only thing to change

cause you’ve got fans and you’ve got fame

I’m just another face in the crowd at friday night’s game

 

-March 2011

Do You Stay with your First Love or not?

Some people break up with their first love reasoning they want to see what else is out there and explore themselves. Are these people just using that as an excuse for some underlying reason when trying to save face? My guess would be yes. It’s a cop out of sorts so that you don’t have to tell your partner how dull they really are or how you sadly fell out of love with them.

One of two things usually happen though, either you get validation that you were in the wrong relationship and find someone new or you realize how good you had it with your previous partner and go back to that relationship. In my opinion though, either result is a win for both partners. For the partner, they either get rid of a relationship where they had been taken for granted or renew said relationship being truly valued and cherished.

So the next question is, Is it helpful/healthy/necessary to date more than one person before you get married? Obviously, there are many happy and successful relationships with high school sweethearts and first loves. But I would like to point out how beneficially I think it is to date someone else before really committing to life with someone.

When you only date one person, you don’t really have a frame of reference for what’s normal and healthy in a relationship. In an extreme case, some people have been in toxic and abusive relationships not truly realizing how controlling and manipulating it was to constantly have your phone searched and screamed at for attending a friend’s birthday party until after they dated someone healthier.

When you’ve been with someone for so long to start to think that this is the only person who could ever really love you and that it’s too much effort to start love over again. This is where you start settling out of fear of ending up alone. That’s definitely not a good reason to stay in a relationship.

So maybe it is healthy to explore relationships with other people so that you understand how you function in a relationship and what a heathy partner and relationship look like.

 

Breaking in the Silence

I loved the way you wore your baseball cap and the way you spoke my name

we were best friends and you knew exactly what to say to make my heart smile

but it was the words you never said that made my heart break

you havent the slightest clue of how much I love you

But baby I beg, please don’t tell me what you don’t feel

please don’t make this pain real

 

-July 2013