Author: debatablydateable

I am not looking for a savior

I don’t want nor need you to fix me

I only wish for your love to inspire me to see my own light

Then I can finally stop stitching my wounds up blindly

No longer feeling around in the darkness

Poking myself endlessly with the needle thread.

Once sew up, I will apply bandages as to not pick at healing scabs

You only need to apply soothing love and support.

I will save myself.

 

-Sept 2017

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What to Get Your Significant Other for the Holidays?

Some Significant others are hard to shop for whether they’re selfless, minimalist, or some other reason. The best way to get around this is to buy them some type of experience. By that, I mean an event or date you two can do together. This way you’ve shown your love by paying for something and you know they’ll enjoy it because they always enjoy spending time with you.

Event ideas: sporting tickets, plays, cooking classes, paint night, and concerts.

Maybe you’re not really the romantic type and you view the holidays as the one time need to really show your SO how much you truly love them. Attention to detail is important here, your SO wants to know you cherish every memory together just like they do. Think back to when you first meet, the date, the place, any inside jokes or little details you can recall.

Romantic route: engraved necklace with anniversary date or other significance, framed photo of the two of you

I talk about online dating quite a lot, there’s a good chance if you’re a new couple then you met through a dating app. This is a tech savvy generation and it would be no surprise if your SO wants one of the new tech product or accessories coming out.

Tech products: iPad, camera, or speakers (add a personal touch by customizing a case for your significant other)

Something I love is listening to my Boyfriend talk about his passions. The spark in his eye and the child like excitement when he really starts getting into such a topic is so fun for me. The joy radiates off him and even I start to get excited, like a puppy when family walks in the door. Buying something related to your SO’s passion or hobby will give them at that excitement and they will cherish the fact that you pay attention to the things they care about.

Something for their hobby: sporting equipment, seasons of their favorite tv show, art supplies, signed collectables item, or cook book

The last suggestion is not that original but it’s hard to go wrong here. With the cold months approaching they might be lacking some proper attire. It’s practical, functional, and stylish to get winter clothes for your SO. Plus you can pair it with a winter date idea like ice skating or a ski trip. It’s a cute way to introduce the date idea and give them something tangible to open besides tickets to an event.

Apparel for a cute winter date: hats, scarves, gloves, and shoes/boots/slippers

Heartbreak

Goodnight Project LoveFest, happy reading!

All Things Pale

This is a word I know all too well. But, surprisingly I am still here; living, breathing, laughing, crying, yet each time as cliche as it sounds I am stronger. Stronger than ever. Forever a student taking my lessons in life. Some more difficult than others, but you know what? If I have made it this far I am built with something powerful, we all are, even you.

I know right now you’re feeling overwhelmed, lost, confused, looking for answers that you know even if you found them, that deep down you would still feel empty, I promise you this. But the answer is to not fill this emptiness with the answers that we think we are looking for, or to dwell on the past and hope you did things differently. Instead put your trust in the greater plan and accept that you cannot control everything and who would want…

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The Feels

All Things Pale

Letting out into the open your feelings isn’t such a bad idea. Frightening yes, but in actuality we are more frightened of ourselves than others. Strange right? We’ve known ourselves our whole lives yet we are still afraid to admit things to ourselves. How ironic? I mean seriously what can we do if we did admit such feelings? We can’t run away from ourselves can we?

In nature we are actually quite amusing, we build things to such importance on a daily basis. Things that don’t and shouldn’t really matter. I could be all hippie and tell you to be one with yourself but in actuality who even knows how to practice that sort of information?

Truth is these are lessons you learn as life goes by. I wish there was a faster course trust me I do. But it all comes down to timing and honesty.

Just don’t be…

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Person

Another lovely blogger for LoveFest!

All Things Pale

It was once said to me that as people we should be the best we can be. The smartest, kindest, as considerate as needed. But then harsh and firm when displeased.

Almost like you can build your character, and none of it really matters as long as the traits are in moderation. No one takes into account the feelings and situations. That make a person who they are and shapes them by different relations.

From an early age we are taught how to love, be brave and how to deal with pain.

Man is made of clay and is so easily molded, yet we place expectations on ourselves that can’t be supported. We offer forgiveness to each other but not to ourselves. As if what we do is a grave sin. Mistakes are bound to happen, regrets and so on, why do you make it seem so wrong? Be the…

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Secret #1 #onlinedating #awkwardmoment 

Good morning Project LoveFest!

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Last year I broke up with my ex boyfriend. Things weren’t always beautiful in our relationship we found ourselves arguing more and more every day. I finally decided to call it a quit and moved out and lived with a friend. I found myself reborn again like I felt few kilos off my chest, I could finally breath in and enjoy the air I inhaled. I enjoyed being single and did not crave for any man’s attention for the first time ever. I realised how much I actually loved myself. I looked into the mirror each day as I apply my makeup and seriously fell in love with myself again. I was actually happy that my mind was finally free. #singlelady

Few weeks later I met up with my girlfriend for dinner in Sydney Darling Habour. We laughed as we shared our relationship failure stories, she then told me about…

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