Follow Friday!

I’ve been getting some new readers lately and I wanted to give everyone a chance to network so feel free to comment your social media pages!

I’ve also been wondering if I should make an Instagram for the blog/poetry, do most of you have separate instagrams?

Thanks for all the support, this blogging community is amazing!

Happy Friday!

Monthly Advice Column!

Hello Readers!

Hope everyone’s New Year is starting off well! Some new things going on for DD in 2018 is the start of a monthly advice column!!

I was trying to find some type of website like form spring (remember that? lol) to help with anonymity but I haven’t found anything yet. Of course, feel free to leave a comment, go to my contact page, or social media pages in order to write in your question or situation that you need love advice on!

Starts next month!

Online Dating Rule #2: The Pit of Unreality

Rose in Full Bloom


Hopefully by now you’ve verified your partner’s existence. Good for you! If not, go here and read how.

You’re in a verified, certified, bonafide online relationship now. It’s a bit scary, but it’s definitely exhilarating! Being in unchartered waters makes you feel somewhat naughty.

Many people look down on, or ashamed of online dating. So many people pretend not to have ever been in one. But here you are, braving the path least traveled. You should be proud of yourself.

But before you get too excited and start telling people to f*ck off, you need to understand how important this time in your relationship is.

Just like in any kind of relationship, there are two things that helps it flourish; communication and honesty.

Unfortunately for us online daters, there is a trap waiting quietly for us to fall into. I call it “The Pit of Unreality”. Dun, dun, duuuuunn!!! Sounds…

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Making Music

Last week for Project LoveFest!! It’s been amazing to see so many cool and diverse bloggers!!!

Rose in Full Bloom

d9941e0d3b3e9cbe5805bb76a78a5fb6There it is again, his heart beating

 out of his chest.

He thinks I can’t tell, but I can see it in his face.

Playing it cool doesn’t work on me. I read his body like sheet music.

His breath quickens setting the time signature for the most beautiful piece.

Each of his heart beats mapping the quarter and half notes.

The intermittent kisses he softly places upon me, give way to the rests in each measure.

While the stroking of his hands along my curves plays out like the soft manipulation of a violin riding the beautiful waves of unimaginable sound.

My moans set the tone as the notes flow from within me and land perfectly on the staff.

The way he watches me like a conductor watches his music come to life, sends chills throughout my body.

He plays me masterfully, producing heavenly sound with every motion.


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Adrift in a Sea of Men

Heartbreak and Hope

via Daily Prompt: Adrift

With online dating I sometimes feel adrift in a sea of men.  A bit lost and confused; what am I doing here and what do I want?.  It is clear that there is one thing all of the guys want.  Some focus on trying to arrange to meet, some are more interested in getting my Whatsapp details while there is the odd one that simply sends me a dick pic.  Then of course there is huge variation in the way they ask ranging from very crude requests to one man who was very polite but honest about what he wanted.  Actually I quite liked the honesty, it was refreshing and in many respects quite respectful.  Better that than a request to meet for a drink, oh and sex but of course you’ll agree when you meet me.  There is one that has a picture of Nutella…

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You should be the only man I talk to?

Heartbreak and Hope

Much of the dating advice directed at women states that guys will continue looking until exclusivity is agreed (we won’t mention those that mess about after) and that women should do the same.  Considering this it is surprising how many men I have encountered who prefer to focus on one woman and expect me just to talk to them.  Typically at this point I tell them a short versions of what happened with Import-export guy to explain why committing to one person too soon is a bad idea.

One of the more extreme versions was a guy who contacted me, chatted for about 10 mins and then said ‘Ok found what I’m looking for. Can we move to WhatsApp?’  I was a little be bemused and so I asked what he meant and yes, it turns out it only intended to chat with me.  I explained that I had no…

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Getting to coffee

Good morning Project LoveFest!!!

Heartbreak and Hope

Meeting for coffee makes a good first date.  It gives you a chance to start getting to know the other person without giving up too much time.  Getting to this point is a sign that things might go somewhere.  But how do decide who to meet for coffee?

With Tinder it starts with the decision to swipe left or right.  Seriously guys if the only thing on your profile is a picture of the sea how can I possibly get a sense of who you are, swipe left.  Similarly pictures representing your interests, such as a Manchester United football shirt, or text that has some meaning to you might give me a better idea of who you are, but I want to see a nice photo of you.  Oh and you lying in bed does not make a good photo.  Text like “Warning, sex with this person may cause explosive…

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Chapter 41 – Lots of Wanderings on Divorce

The Chronicles of a Happy Divorcée

Monday, 8 February 2016.

Day 50

During her lunch break at school, Anna sits down to scribble in her diary.

Dear Diary,

Long time no write! Sorry.

Look, I’m not feeling sad right now, but I forgot to write about something the other day – something important to me that I want to register here.


Awful word, but intrinsic in human nature.

I remember just last year, a month before moving out of our last home together…

I had already signed my rental apartment’s contract and was spending my afternoons and evenings looking for good deals to buy furniture and household appliances. That part was fun, tbh. I adore moving and decorating. I’m good at it!

I love looking for solutions. Hmm, should have been an engineer…

Anyways, the shopping kept me busy and focused on practicalities for the near future, instead of the immediate pre-separation…




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Chapter 57 – Who I Am?

Good morning Project LoveFest!! Happy Friday!

The Chronicles of a Happy Divorcée

Wednesday, 17 February 2016.


Not the sun – just thy moon?

I’m a lover – I’m beloved.

I am fun, I am old.

Woman, sister, mom and daughter,

I am scared, I am bold.

I’m not bitter, I am sweet!

I’m a lady,


I’m determined, I am flawed,

I am awed by thee.

I’m his Ex, I am deep,

I am active, I’m asleep.

I am happy, ugly, heavy.

I just want to leave.

I am light, I am dark,

I am gracious, I am marred.

I’m a birdie, I am barred.

I am patient, restless, pretty –

Just thy wild card.

North and south,

Kind and blind.

Just a girl,

I’m a friend.

I’m just tired –

I will end.

I am loyal, I betray:

I’m a sinner, I’m a saint –

I’m forgiving, I’m forgiven,

Though now drained.

Hot and cold (not really)

I’m a…

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Break ups are tough :/ here are some ways to help you get through them !


(♥ Coming at you a day late, but only because I worked so hard on this for you, babes. ♥)

After two earth-shattering breakups that left me depressed and not sure who I was or what to do with myself. The weird thing is the first one was mutual, and the second, I was the one to call it off. But I’d sunk so much time and energy into these relationships (mostly just energy in the second one) and had invented a heavily detailed future with both of these people before realizing we weren’t good together. Not to mention the first relationship involved trashing a lot of my original, independent future plans for the sake of the new ones we were creating together.

Why do break ups hurt so much? Other than the rejection, which in my case was absent, we made a future with these people, and it hurts…

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Here’s some online dating advice from today’s Project LoveFest blogger!


Current Tinder Stats

Dates made: 13

Dates canceled: 5

Dates gone on: 7

Dates successful*: 5

Dates ending in hookups: 4

*Success measured by whether I still want to talk to the party in question or not.

How long has it been now? Still only two months? God, it feels like it’s been years. I can feel my body/mind crying for some significant time off from going on dates or hooking up, so I’d better wrap up this Tinder advice before I retire the blessed app for a while.

Last week I focused on what kind of guys I look for on Tinder and why, including some of my observations and realizations after much trial and error. This week I want to talk about making a profile because, kids, you’re all a goddamn mess.

I can’t tell you how other people use Tinder, but I almost always look through all…

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