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Follow Friday!

I’ve been getting some new readers lately and I wanted to give everyone a chance to network so feel free to comment your social media pages!

I’ve also been wondering if I should make an Instagram for the blog/poetry, do most of you have separate instagrams?

Thanks for all the support, this blogging community is amazing!

Happy Friday!

The Boyfriend does Q&A!

DD: The tables have finally turned! My Boyfriend is giving us a Tell All on our relationship and I get to hear his inner thoughts on some questions you guys have been wondering! Let’s get this show started!

1.How do you feel about her? by Homelife

That’s an easy question, I love her. From the first date that we went on I could tell that she was different from any girl that I had ever met before, and over the past couple of months I’ve considered myself the luckiest guy in the world for having her in my life.

2. How do you feel about your gf blogging about you and your relationship? Do you read what she writes? Approve/ edit? by Floating Gold

To be honest, at first it felt a little weird for me. But that’s mostly because DD creates all of her content several months before posting it to this blog, so when we first started dating she was still posting about going on dates with other guys. But ever since she started posting about me, I absolutely love reading it. It really shows me how much she loves me.

DD: I consider majority of my posts about Boyfriend to be some form of a love letter and I think it holds more feeling and impact if he doesn’t see them until the finished project is ready. But I will sometimes send him poems before they are published on here.

3. Opposites attract or two peas in a pod?

For the most part, two peas in a pod. I’m sometimes shocked by how similar our personalities are. We both seem to have the same values and morals. Both of us are the type who would rather spend a night cuddling up and watching a good show or movie than going out to a bar or club. Our similarities make it very easy to spend time together because we usually agree on what it is that we want to do.
However, we do have some differences. DD is a morning person who can easily wake up when her alarm sounds, while I’m the kind of person who hits the snooze button five times before rolling out of bed. (DD: literally impossible to wake him up…)I like to drink beer, DD only drinks hard cider. DD also has an amazing short-term memory, but a horrible long-term memory, entire parts of her childhood she can’t remember. I’m the opposite, I can remember things that happened years ago in great detail, but I have a terrible short-term memory, so we balance each other out. But perhaps the biggest difference is that I know that beagles are the best breed of dogs, while DD still thinks that Shiba Inu’s are the best. (DD: You’ll come around to the truth eventually mwhaha)

4. When did you know you really liked DD?

As DD mentioned in a previous post, she had been on a few dates prior to our first date, and so had I. As a matter of fact, both of us went on dates with other people the night before our first date together. Even crazier, both of us almost cancelled going on that first date with each other. Fortunately we didn’t cancel, and the date that we both thought would be a quick dinner date that would last for an hour at best, turned into a date that lasted nearly six hours. So to answer the question, the first date was when I knew that I really liked DD.

5. What’s been your favorite date so far?

This is a hard question, because we’ve had so many great dates. Also it’s hard to tell what is considered a date and what is not. My answer to this question may be slightly controversial because it lasted an entire weekend. The time we took a trip to Upstate New York. This was our first trip together and the longest continuous amount of time we spent together. I made a playlist of our favorite songs for the road trip up to Albany. Albany is the city where I went to college, so I know the city very well and had a lot of fun showing DD all of my favorite places. When I introduced her to my two best friends from college who both still live in Albany, I was very worried because they never liked any of my other girlfriends before, but they absolutely loved DD.
The second day of our trip is what really made it special though. As we were driving up to Saratoga from Albany, we stopped at a park along the way that overlooked Cohoes Falls. As we were standing on a bridge overlooking the water fall, I told DD that I loved her, it was my first time saying it, but it just felt right to say it. Once we got to Saratoga we stayed at this cute little hotel that had a courtyard with a fireplace. That night we sat next to the fire for hours cuddling and talking. Everything felt perfect.

6. What your favorite feature about your lady? (nothing too cliche please or inappropriate) by Bexoxo

My favorite feature about DD is her smile. Whenever she gets excited about something she gets this big grin on her face that’s absolutely adorable. (DD: I remember he once described this ‘big grin’ as taking up half of my face, which sounds creepy, not adorable if you ask me…)She also has a great body too, but I can’t get too inappropriate so I’ll just leave it at that.

7. So now that you’ve found love, tell us how should we find it?

Unlike DD, this is not my first relationship. I’ve been in several others, some of which were downright terrible, others which just didn’t have the spark needed to sustain a successful relationship. My advice would be that if you’re in a relationship with somebody and you are unhappy or just don’t feel the magic, get out of it, because you never know when the perfect person will walk into your life and the last thing you want is to miss that opportunity.

8. Who’s more romantic? What was the romantic gesture?

I would say that I’m the more romantic one, I’m always trying to think of new and creative romantic things that I can do. Anything to make DD show me her smile.

DD: I would also agree Boyfriend is the more romantic one, he does it in simple thoughtful ways, like when he went on a business trip for a week but somehow secretly left a handwritten love note in my work bag to read while he was gone. He’s incredibly open in expressing his feelings for me and I can’t begin to explain how much I value that in a significant other.

9. What character name do you wish you had on the blog? What character name would you give DD if you had a blog?

The name that she gave me is perfect. Originally, she wanted to name me “boats” because our first couple of dates all took place near the water, (DD: Honestly, he realllllyy likes boats…)but I convinced her that boats was a stupid name.

10. When did you find out about the blog? by Formerly Unfortunate

When we first started talking online, I saw the link to the blog on her Instagram. I checked it out a little bit, but it didn’t deter me from going on our first date.

11. Have you read the old posts? If so, what did you think and if not, what made you refrain from doing so? by Dating Dad

I have read some of the old posts. As I mentioned in one of my other answers, it did make me feel a little weird at first, but it doesn’t bother me too much.

DD: Thank god Boyfriend doesn’t have a blog because we all know how I would handle old posts… 

12. What do you think made you stand out from the crowd and secure official boyfriend status? by Dating Dad

To be honest, I have no clue. As I said neither one of us wanted to go on the first date, and to make matters worse, I had a stain on my shirt that I didn’t find out about until later that night. But somehow I was able to stand out from the crowd, and I’m thankful that I did.

DD: I can, of course, list things I love about Boyfriend such as his work ethic and ability to make me laugh but I also wonder why we clicked so well on that first date and how that connection continues to grow months and months later. All I know for sure thought is that I feel so safe in his love for me and it’s so easy to love him back.

13. End the debate, is DD dateable?

Yes!

 

When DD first told me that I would be answering questions for her blog I got a little nervous, but answering these questions has actually been a lot of fun for me. Writing my answers got me to think back and relive the last couple of months that DD and I have spent together, and what makes her so special. I look forward to seeing the response that this post gets on her blog, I look forward to reading more of her posts, and of course I look forward to loving her some more. (DD: Aww, he’s so frinking cute!)

Asking for Support Today

I would normally not do this type of post but I’ve been getting much more involved in the blogger community this summer and have seen so much support and made so many connections.

My Aunt was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer last summer and has shown such strength taking on this battle every day. I’ll be participating in a fundraiser walk in just a few weeks to show support to my Aunt and The Lustgarten pancreatic cancer research foundation as they continue to search for a cure.

If you have an extra $5 or $10 in your pocket today, any donation is deeply appreciated.

And if you don’t, just spread some extra love this month, you never know who needs it ❤

Thank you, talk soon, and take care xx

Get to Know Me Through the Liebster Award 2017!

Thanks so much Melissa for this nomination! We’re strong, independent women who don’t need no man to handle our finances! Any blog that is here to empower women is an excellent blog in my book. And here are the questions you asked me:

What is the sentence that stopped you in your path and changes your life completely?

I didn’t really enjoy high school and purposely picked a school several states away to really start over. I was kinda surprised when I still felt the same way 18 months later and that was when I realized “no matter where you go, you are still you”. That’s when I decided to come back home to finish school, find a psychiatrist, and start therapy. That was when I changed my life and started my journey to managing my mental health and becoming the healthiest version of myself.

What does success means to you?

Success seems to really point toward career in my opinion. And a successful career to me, would mean being one of the best in your field and being well known for your talent. Perhaps you also have a great salary and win awards, that definitely sounds like the promise of success.

What do you need to let go of?

Melissa, my god you go right for the heart don’t you?! Hm, I need to let go the fear of failing. I need to become more comfortable making mistakes in front of others and learn to not fear rejection from others.

What is the best advice you will give your youngest self?

This one is easiest enough, I would tell her to get into therapy sooner. And OMG, STOP TALKING TO BOYS WHO DON’T DESERVE YOU!

What is your biggest financial mistake?

I don’t know if mistake is the best word, but in retrospect, I definitely think it would have been smarter to save money and go to community college for two years and then finish up my degree at a more expensive school for the last two years. I think High Schoolers are really unaware of all the college expenses and it should become more popular to save money by going to community college.

What is the best life pieces of advice someone gives to you

The best pieces of life advice I’ve received were “treat yourself like you treat your friends” and “think of the worst that can happen, can you handle that?”. The first has been helpful in being kinder to myself and crediting my positives more so I don’t dwell on the negatives. That’s still very much a work in progress but it really stops me in my tracks when I’m explaining a situation and being negative and she says “well if your friend had this same problem what would you say” and my attitude immediately changes to be more supportive. The second piece is more of an anxiety tactic. I worry quite a lot and you would think that imagining the worst would only increase my anxiety. But I allow myself a minute to indulge in all that can go wrong and then I ask myself if I could live with it and surprisingly, most of the time I say yes and begin to feel better. Trip, sweat, and fumble over my words during a presentation? Sounds like just a regular human who makes mistakes and an event the class is likely to forget in a week. Get rejected or dumped by the cute guy? Wouldn’t be the first time and I’m still here standing, ready to try again. You’re capable of much more than you think, and stronger too.

What is your singular goal in life?

This is easy too, to be happy and healthy. Healthy to me means managing my mental health issues and exercising to keep my body from aging too quickly. Happy to me means feeling strong connections to those close to me (such as my sisters and significant other) and being fulfilled by my passion for writing and purpose with working.

10 Random Facts About Me

  1. My two front teeth are fake (I broke/chipped them multiple times as a kid)
  2. I run a personal Instagram account for my dog because I’m obsessed
  3. I’m eating a ton of cereal and ice cream this summer and loving it
  4. I also eat odd things with Mayo (like fries and mac and cheese)
  5. I recent started dating my boyfriend 🙂
  6. I like to do Zudoku puzzles on the train
  7. Spring is my favorite season
  8. I have never broken a bone (knock on wood)
  9. My sisters and I have been touring different Escape room locations to try and beat every room
  10. I’ve been writing poetry for over 10 years now and hope to publish a collection in the future

My Favorite Blog

The blog I can’t get enough of these days is Career Girl! She inspires every girl to recognize their worth and land their dream job! I think motivation and empowerment like this is so important to women today! Aside from giving tips and advice on job hunting and office issues, she also helps women look their professional best. From outside beauty hair products to inner beauty meditation articles, she’s got your back covered!

Questions to Answer from Me ( I’m going pretty creative/poetry with these questions)

  1. How did you get into Poetry?
  2. What’s your writing process like for the blog?
  3. What’s your favorite poem that you wrote?
  4. What/Who inspires you?
  5. How do you picture yourself in 5 years?

The Rules

If you have been nominated for The Liebster Award AND YOU CHOOSE TO ACCEPT IT, write a blog post about the Liebster award in which you should do the following:

  • Thank the person who nominated you, and posts a link to their blog. Try to include a little promotion for the individual who nominated you.
  • Display the award on your blog — by including it in your post and/or displaying it using a “widget” or a “gadget”. You can download images for the award here
  • Write a 150-300 word post on your favourite blog that is not your own. Explain why you like the blog, provide links.
  • Answer your questions and provide 10 random facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 5 – 11 blogs that you feel deserve the award, who have less than 200 followers and ask them your own questions.
  • List these rules in your post (You can copy and paste from here or from this site)
  • Don’t forget to inform the people/blogs you nominated about it.

The Blogs I’m nominating are:

  1. Rebellious Ravens
  2. Entirely Taylor
  3. Hello Halima
  4. Weasley
  5. Gabrielle Gillispie

Blog Recognition (& Liebster) Award

Sooo funny story, I was nominated for three awards this month: Liebster, Blog Recognition, and another Liebster. I thought three different award blog posts seemed a bit excessive so I was going to combine the two Liebsters but they have different rules! Interestingly enough one of the Liebsters and the Blog Recognition have the same rules, so I’m combining those instead. (And after some research, it seems these rules are for the Blog Recognition and my post next week will be the rules for the Liebster).

Part 1 I was nominated for a Liebster Award by super mom, Hermine-Jane. She tells funny, honest, and valuable stories of her experiences being a first time mom. Life is our greatest teacher, and it’s through HookedOn’s storytelling that we find a fresh perspective on what some of these experiences mean and how we can learn from them.

Part 2 I was nominated for the Blog Recognition Award by the driven Jillian. She may be new to blogging but has plenty of experiences to write about between modeling, being a mom, and her travels! I have no doubt her blog will blossom and exceed all goals in her first year!

Why and How I started my blog

I started my blog because I think a lot of people can relate to the experiences I’ve gone through and this was the best way to connect us all. Every time I receive a comment about someone else relating to my post, it makes me so happy because that’s my mission coming to life. Everyone just wants to belong and I think uniting us, gives us more strength to face challenges and improve ourselves (like ditching the guy who doesn’t realize the great woman you are).

Two Top Tips for New Bloggers

  1. Definitely write about what you are passionate about and not what you think will get you the most followers. If you want to write about Anime or Paranormal Fiction stories then do it! Don’t write about something just because you think it will get you the most views or free products. If you love make up and can create really unique looks, then by all means Beauty blog your heart away! Don’t be cool, just be you.
  2. Don’t measure your success with numbers. Views, follows, and likes are cool and exciting but that’s not what blogging is about. Create content that makes you happy and really showcases who you are. Truly expressing yourself will make you far happier than any amount of site traffic. And people will begin to follow anyway when they see how genuine your work is. It could take some time for people to begin to notice your blog so don’t get discouraged by the numbers either.

BLOG RECOGNITION AWARD 2017:

There are a few steps you have to take as you accept this award:

1.Write a post about how and why you’ve started this blog.
2. Include the person who nominated you into your post, add a link to their blog and a short description.
3. Nominate 15 other bloggers for this award.
4. Give new bloggers two pieces of advice.
5. Notify the bloggers you have nominated for this award and provide the link to your post.
And now, the time has come. The bloggers I choose to nominate for the Blog Recognition Award are:

  1. SparklyNerdBlog
  2. Paul McGinley
  3. Mary Job
  4. Married Cat Lady
  5. Sophie-Alice
  6. Unbox Diaries
  7. Wanderlust Amy
  8. Dominika Szeles
  9. Cinnamon and Sparkles
  10. Southern Laced
  11. Missie Stephie
  12. Geeky Beauty Party
  13. AVA Poet
  14. Biblio Bakes
  15. Life of Larissa

*Do not forget to follow the rules presented above.

Follow Friday!

I haven’t done a Follow Friday in a while and I’ve recently seen some new followers so comment a link to your blog below and a little blurb on what you write about!

And a fun something about yourself, like your favorite date idea/activity? 🙂

 

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