Q&A

Q&A 3k follower Celebration!

Everytime I talk about stat numbers I’ll always bring up the absolute lack of faith I had in my blog when I first started. It is absolutely astonishing to be able to say I’ve made it to 3,000+ followers on here and I can’t thank you all enough for this support!

 

1.I’ve been following your blog for a bit and I notice that you are very interactive with your readers, what is the most important take-away for you from that connection? Susi

I want people to connect to my work and with all those that relate to it as well. I always want to connect people to each other. My takeaway is the validation that my work is relatable to a wide audience. I want people to feel a sense of themselves in my work and feel less alone. I’m thrilled every time I receive a comment that supports that.

 

2.Has your blog changed you in anyway?

My blog definitely made me confident enough to publish my first collection; If not for my blog, I would maybe have published in my 50s. It’s hard to explain how happy I am that I am now publishing my second collection by the time I’m 25. It’s absolutely changed my writing career and I’m excited to show you my future projects as they develop more!

 

3.If you could learn a new skill, what would it be?

I’m actually working on learning sign language with my boyfriend! It’s a slow process but whenever one of us is bored, we’ll look up some words or phrases and then teach the other person what we learned.

 

4.In your new book, Where I Ache, do the contents reveal how pain motivates or how pain feels? Or something else? – Susi

I would say the majority of the book is how pain feels in regards to depression, insecurity, and grief. But the last chapter is all self love and growth from that pain, so in the end the collection leaves you with that motivation.

 

5.Which section/category was the hardest emotionally for you to work on? Which one was the most rewarding when you finally felt like you’d gotten it just right? Adeline

The most emotionally draining chapter is the grief chapter. It’s a very fresh and raw emotion for me to write about. I also worried that people will think I’m just trying to capitalize on this trauma. There was a seesaw of just not thinking about it or crying and writing about it.

The most rewarding was probably the self love chapter since it really tested my creative ability. It’s a difficult topic for me to write in a new and unique way and it’s not a topic that comes naturally to me. It really required a lot of creative brain power in order to fill in that chapter to be up to par with the rest of the collection.

 

6.How has your idea of blogging changed from when you first began?

There’s is A LOT more to blogging than just posting articles. There’s a community to network with, social media to grow so that you can increase your blog reach, and there’s the ability to monetize your blog. I’m not even going to get into that but it would include things like affiliated programs, ads, sponsored posts, mailing lists, selling products and services, and softwares and tools to help optimize your blog’s presence.

I don’t mean to scare anyone, blogging can just be posting whatever you feel like. But the longer you’re in the blogging world, the more you see the opportunities to grow and change. I’m happy that I’ve falling in love with blogging long enough to watch it grow.

 

7.Might you have any advice for fledgling fellow poets who are working on their own first anthology for publication? – Adeline

I wrote an article about what I would do differently after my first collection came out so I would definitely suggest checking it out to anyone who is looking to publish their first collection. My first piece of advice would be to go for it! Have faith in yourself to go out of your comfort zone and publish your first book.

My second piece of advice would be to have patience. Take your time in your writing process and take even more time in the editing stage. Lastly, I would say to really focus on marketing your book, especially before your publish date! Try to enjoy the experience without expectations of success, the numbers will come in time. Good Luck!

 

Q&A Soon! – Ask Your Questions!

I just want to start by thanking you all for supporting me to 3,000 followers! It is absolutely amazingggg to see a number like that 2.5 years after I published my first article on here.

 

I think I’ll do a little, mini Q&A to celebrate this milestone. If anyone has any questions feel free to leave them in the comments!

I hope to publish the answers in 2-3 weeks but we shall see how busy life gets.

 

DD is Two Years Old!!

Another birthday has come for dear DD so naturally a Q&A is in order. This blog is hard to stay on top of sometimes but its so worth it with every comment I get to read from each of you and connecting us in this mess of a dating world ❤

 

  1. What’s your biggest accomplishment in your blogger journey so far ?

By far the biggest has been turning the poetry portion of my blog into a book earlier this year! I’ve thought about publishing a poetry collection for the past few years but thought it would happen much later in life or just be a pipedream that never came to be. So the fact that I am a published poet by the time I turned 24 is nearly unimaginable for me and super super exciting! And then the fact that strangers and people around the world have been supporting my book is more than I could have ever hoped! So Thank You so much for giving me that joy!

 

  1. Do you have any future book/collections planned?

I definitely do, before pulling together Cracked Open, I cataloged all of my poems and found other similar themes that can be the foundation for my next collection. I also have plans for publishing a different type of book but I’ll fill everyone in when that is more developed.

 

  1. Favorite post you wrote in your second year?

My favorite post from the past blogging year is Modern Online Dating Etiquette. I like posts that have lists and touch on each item which I think this post does. My blog also originated from modern dating and the mayhem it brings and I like to give advice to help others whenever I can.

Do you have a favorite article of mine?

 

  1. How different was your life one year ago?

Last August I was unemployed so it’s fantastic news that I’ve been working for the same company the past 10 months!! I was also just meeting my current boyfriend at the time so it’s pretty crazy to be at our 1 year already. Even now we talk about how unexpecting that first date was 🙂 So in the past year I’ve gained my first long term relationship and long term job! On a personal level I think I’ve been standing up for myself more in the past year. I establish boundaries and I go after what I want now – I’m a bit braver.

 

  1. What keeps you motivated when blogging?

You know when I was debating going self hosting it actually created a lot of doubt for me – it was a big step, I was making an investment, and I feared failure. It made me forget why I had started blogging in the first place and I ended up taking a month off. In that month I learned that I could never stop writing and I learned to set realistic expectations for where I want to take my blog. Remembering why you started and envisioning your dream are great ways to stay motivated! I also enjoy reading other blogs, seeing their happiness, and their own blogger journey.  

 

  1. Who were you in a different life?

I hope I was a talented artist, either in an entertainment setting or a sculptor / painter whom was often featured in galleries. I hope there was a time when I had so much creative talent that I was able to have a successful career.   

 

  1. What’s something on your bucket list?

I definitely think I want to see the northern lights. I find cenotes really cool and would love to swim in some. I’d also love to eventually have a poetry book in stores and on some best seller list.

 

  1. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Hopefully advancing in my career and in the process of buying a house if I’m lucky. Definitely want to be in a long term relationship with wedding bells heavily in mind. Also would be great if I had a second dog! And would definitely love to have a few more poetry collections published! I wonder if the blog will still be a focus for me?

 

  1. Have you ever wanted to write/publish an article/poem but didn’t because of who might read it?

Indeed I have, I want to show readers that relationships aren’t perfect. I think social media really plays a part in portraying relationships as always perfect and amazing and that makes you feel worse about your relationship. I wanted to portray a real and honest view of relationships. But I’m not the only one in this relationship and I need to be mindful that some things should stay within a relationship. There are also people in my life that read this blog and I try to maintain an appropriate line in that area as well.

 

Questions for Future Q&A!

Hi Everyone!!

My two year blogversary is coming up!! Two years ago I would have never thought I’d be here now! In typical blogger fashion, I’ll be doing a Q&A since I haven’t done one in quite some time. If you have any questions about my blog, book, or life feel free to drop one below or privately through my contact page!

The Q&A will be out in three weeks!

 

 

Question for My Readers

Hi Readers!

I assume most of you might follow my blog because you too have been in a boxing match with online dating. Are there any of you who have never been on dating websites/apps though?

Are there questions you wonder about modern online dating but feel silly asking?

I want to do a Q&A for those who have never been on a dating site so if you have questions, send them my way!

Contact Page, Twitter, or leave a question in the comments below!

 

Future Q&A!

I was so thrilled to hit 300 followers that I’m going to suggest the idea of a Q&A for March! I don’t know how interested anyone is in hearing more about me but we’ll see how that goes! So write your question in the comments below or on the Contact page.

Questions can be anything your heart desire’s! -random, specific, blog related, personal, theoretical, whatever! (We all know I love to talk about love so that’s fair game too!)

And I’ll be sure to link your blog in my Q&A post if you happen to ask a question!  Thanks so much and hope to hear from you!

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