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July Throwback – He’s Different

So I’ve met someone new!

I’d like to put a disclaimer first saying this post is just about acknowledging and celebrating his differences, not a declaration of he’s the one. I’m not that delusional. (It’s only been a couple of weeks, let’s not get ahead of ourselves just yet).

I would also suggest to others not to compare your current suitors to boys of your past but since when does anyone ever follow their own advice?

So what does my new guy do that the others haven’t?

First, he’s not afraid to call them ‘dates’! We’re not just hanging out, not staying in, and not just grabbing food. It’s a date. In the past, I’ve avoided saying the word ‘date’ because I was worried it would freak the guy out a little bit. It’s very refreshing that he’s so comfortable with the word and the concept.

So I’ve been on a quite a few dates. Enough dates that I started avoiding meal dates and would purposely try to plan activities like bowling and mini golf. So I’ve done most date activities by now and it’s pretty difficult to surprise and impress me. He did both.

First off, he actually planned them himself! This has never happened to me before. It’s always been a back and forth of naming a few suggestions that are of equal distance between our two locations, then narrowing them down. Then I pick the day and give some options for the time we should meet up. It’s a very long process and some guys were so passive that it was like pulling teeth trying to figure out a place that we would actually both enjoy.

Secondly, there’s usually the waiting game of when you can ask about the next date because you’d don’t want to come off as too available and desperate. He doesn’t play games. Monday night he asks me if I have plans for Saturday and when I say no he says great because he has a surprise. He plans TWO different date options in different envelops allowing me to read both once he’s picked me up from my house and pick the one I want to go to that night. AND both options were activities I had never done before, which honestly must have been a stroke of luck. I was so impressed with the planning, the originality and creativity of the date ideas that were able to surprise me!

The final way in which he is different so far stems from his dislike of small talk. He likes to explore new topics and talk about interesting things. He’s also not afraid to talk about uncomfortable topics. You know how you steer away from your insecurities and issues for the first month or three (lol) of dating to make sure they like your positive attributes first before learning about your difficult traits? That didn’t happen with us. If you’ve read along with my blog over the past few months then you’ve heard me mention my intimacy and abandonment issues.

Well, somehow they came up during our first date and he asked me about them so we’re pretty bare to each other already. I appreciated that he didn’t shy away from the hard stuff even if I hadn’t been planning on talking about it for a while. We’re going to be jumping into this already knowing the deep secrets you usually hide. And it actually made our second date a lot easier.

Usually, I’m anxious thinking about the things I haven’t told my suitors yet, wondering if they’ll view me differently after, or if they’ll think it’s too much work to put up with. Instead, I could be fully honest with him. I didn’t have to think about how I was going to avoid the whole truth without lying or think about how I would tell him the full story later on. And there were more and more things he got to learn about me because I wasn’t so worried about being judged.

So he’s different and I like it. And I’m curious to see more of his differences and were that takes us.

June Throwback – Love the Artist not the Art

Im not a painting, a gallery, nor a museum.

My textures are not on for display, you do not have permission to touch.

My colors are not for you to stare and talk about.

I’m not something you visit or pass by.

Don’t delude yourself into thinking I’m something easy to leave

Only a fool loves something for the way it looks.

Do not love me for my Art but for the Artist behind the canvas.

The art changes as She continues to create more art

Love me and I will create beautiful art for you every day, forever.

May Throwback – 300 followers Q&A

2021 Current: In August when I’m closer to my 5 year anniversary I’ll do a short Q&A to try to highlight how things have changed and progressed over the years.

Feb 17, 2017: I was so thrilled to hit 300 followers that I’m going to suggest the idea of a Q&A for March! I don’t know how interested anyone is in hearing more about me but we’ll see how that goes! So write your question in the comments below or on the Contact page.

Questions can be anything your heart desire’s! -random, specific, blog related, personal, theoretical, whatever! (We all know I love to talk about love so that’s fair game too!)

And I’ll be sure to link your blog in my Q&A post if you happen to ask a question!  Thanks so much and hope to hear from you!

Looking Back on 2020 (A year in review)

Lets look back on the highlights in 2020 on Debatably Dateable!

New collection: Even the Leaves is 5 months old already! It’s crazy that I’ve already published 3 poetry collections with Ddateable. And 2021 will by my 5 year anniversary having Debatably Dateable! I’m not sure what’s next but I’m proud of all that I’ve accomplished already and I’m forever thankful for all the support you have shown through the years!

Favorite poems:

Wish You Would (Sept) – A classic DDateable poem, and the muse consumes all of my 2020 so how could I not?

Breathe in Love (May) – A poem I wrote from his point of view, which I enjoy doing and don’t do often enough.

Devilish Love (Feb) – I was binging Lucifer at the time and it was pretty cool to put him into a poem, any other fans catch some of my hints?

Your Favorite / Most viewed poem:

I’ll be Your Everything (Jan) – In just a few lines this poem tells a love story from now till old age.

Noteworthy: Wedding Day (August) – My sister got married this summer!!

Favorite posts:

Dating apps can make you healthy (Jan) – I talk about how miserable dating apps are all the time so it’s nice to throw in an article where they don’t seem so bad and they even help you set. goals.

Dinner and movie terrible date (April) – I stand by that statement and there will be more articles to come on other terrible dates ideas in 2021!

How to get over someone (July) – we’re all still not over someone so this article is perfect for anyone. There’s the funny joke on Dating apps that you need to figure out who’s married -single, single -single, and waiting on their ex -single.

Your Favorite/ Most viewed post:

I’m only giving the energy I receive (April) – Amen to that girl! I love this post, I would have mentioned it myself if you guys didn’t! If that’s the one thing you ever take away from my blog, then I consider it a success!

Noteworthy: Pandemic Dating (July) – We’re in the second wave of the pandemic, how could I end this post without mentioning it?

From the Start

Here we go again
trying to break my heart
Should have called it from the start.
It took so long to make you mine
now I know I was just wasting my time.
Sleepless nights spent thinking about you,
well it’s all so sad but I ain’t gunna cry for you.

 

-2010

Follow Friday!

I’ve been getting some new readers lately and I wanted to give everyone a chance to network so feel free to comment your social media pages!

I’ve also been wondering if I should make an Instagram for the blog/poetry, do most of you have separate instagrams?

Thanks for all the support, this blogging community is amazing!

Happy Friday!

Monthly Advice Column!

Hello Readers!

Hope everyone’s New Year is starting off well! Some new things going on for DD in 2018 is the start of a monthly advice column!!

I was trying to find some type of website like form spring (remember that? lol) to help with anonymity but I haven’t found anything yet. Of course, feel free to leave a comment, go to my contact page, or social media pages in order to write in your question or situation that you need love advice on!

Starts next month!